Whatever you choose to do next, trust that the skills and insights you’ve gained in Facilitator Training will continue to grow and serve you – supporting the integration of your parts and the strengthening of your healthy I.To that end I invite you to consider the following as a way to live in congruence with ID Theory in your day-to-day lives:

1. Remember that you are a combination of a multitude of parts. Continue to be present to and aware of your parts. Get to know them, love them, and cherish them. This can be done outside the formal structure of an ID Session, simply through a few moments of conscious intention.

2. Be cognizant of perpetration in your lives. Identify victim-perpetrator dynamics in yourself and in the systems you’re a part of. For our guests, in ID Work we consider perpetration to have occurred when somebody puts their own needs ahead of another and in the process harms the other. Perpetration of self and others is part and parcel of living in a traumatized and traumatizing society. As perpetration shows up in relationships, work, even health - remain alert to your triggers. Be gentle with yourselves, meet your survival parts with respect and understanding so that you can diminish patterns of victim-perpetrator dynamics in your life, particularly patterns of self-perpetration.

3. In those moments where you are challenged – where you find yourself blended with a survival part or a traumatized part – a simple reflection of Who Am I and What Do I Want can help you locate yourself. These are not so much questions to answer, as on a test, but reminders to gently return your attention to the Home of your integrated I, where love resides, and where answers can be discovered without allegiance to strategies and identifications that no longer serve you.

As we learn from ID Work, when we live from a healthy I – in touch with all that we’ve suffered, in touch with all the ways we’ve adapted to survive, and in touch with all the compassion and love we have found for ourselves – we show up as incredibly amazing human beings, people who can make a significant difference in the world, who can bring our entire selves to the problems we face as a collective and who can bring the same patience, compassion, creativity and presence we have strengthened in Self-Meeting to our relationships with family, community, and world.